Mum of triplets shares defiant ‘mum tum’ selfie, as she reveals why she refuses to cover up her pregnancy stretch marks

Writing for Kidspot, Desiree Fortin, from San Diego, USA, said: "For every woman unhappy with her postpartum marks, there is one wishing she had them."

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Here I am, 3+ years postpartum. • The wrinkles, the scars, the stretch marks, and extra skin-it is never going away and yet, with much intention, I can proudly and confidently say how beautiful my body is. • Several months ago I was given an opportunity from the TV Show, The Doctor’s, to have a non-invasive tummy tuck. They called me “the perfect candidate.” To be honest, I have never once considered a tummy tuck, not because I don’t support them but because I do my best to love my body for what is now. I declined the offer twice and had to follow my heart. • While I truly believe in self love, I knew a tummy tuck just wasn’t for me. While there are some days when m body is hard to love, I truly have grown to love and appreciate my hope wounds! These marks are my story and represent the roadmap to my journey and the lives of my triplets. Not all mamas with these scars get to bring their babies home, and my heart grieves with them. • It’s all about perspective. My journey has required daily affirmation of self love and in doing so I have been able to really transform my mind to see and appreciate the beauty of the wrinkles, scars, and extra skin. • Our bodies change drastically after giving birth and while some bounce back, others don’t. While some have not a single stretch mark, others do, everywhere. While some have a c-section scar, others don’t. Whatever you’re story is, I encourage you to LOVE the new you!! Affirm your beauty when you look in the mirror because you are so damn beautiful!! And Do whatever it is that is going to make you feel beautiful!!! • What is something affirming you can tell yourself today?? #this_is_postpartum Tee: @sweet_peas_and_sweeties Bracelet: @journey.tree

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After a three-year infertility with partner Ryan, Desiree finally became pregnant through IVF.

And it was a triple surprise, as the parents discovered they were expecting not one, not two but three babies – who were born in August 2015.

After years of wishing for a child, Desiree embraced her pregnancy – and everything that came with it, including her enormous bump.

She regularly posts candid pictures of the resulting stretch marks, which have helped her gain an army of 83,000 followers, but have also seen her face cruel taunts from trolls.

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Pregnant Body vs. Postpartum Body. • It is easy for me to look at my pregnant body and see beauty, the miracle of carrying life, 3 lives. I see hope and happiness. I see joy and love. I see a woman embracing the gift of carrying her babies and the ability to carry them. • And yet somehow when I look at my postpartum body it’s sometimes harder for me to see that same beauty. Yet, it is the SAME body. There may not be a child growing inside me anymore, but this body represents my story, the journey it took to get my children. I see a body that carried 3 babies at one time with strength determined to do everything I could to keep them growing inside me as long as possible. I see embrace. I see love. And I see beauty. • Choose to embrace. Choose to love! Choose grace. And Change your perspective because your body has always been a beautiful masterpiece.💕 Tee: @themomculture ——————- Thank you @meg.boggs for starting the #this_is_postpartum movement 💕 It is so impactful and together we can rise, embrace, and support one another on our journeys to loving ourselves fully!

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She told Kidspot: "Although I never imagined my body would look the way it does now, it represents so much more.

"There is a lot of extra skin, stretch marks, sag and wrinkles.

"And while my new mum body may be hard to love sometimes, it is a new me that represents the power of the female body and the miracle of carrying three babies."

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The part of my body that has been the greatest struggle for me to choose to love and embrace since the triplets birth is my extra skin. I was 105 pounds when I found out I was pregnant with triplets. And I carried them to 34 weeks + 1 day which is a miracle in itself. My body stretched and stretched. I look back at pictures and am blown away by how I carried 3 humans at one time. During my pregnancy I knew my body would be different and I did my best to prepare myself for that. However, learning to love our bodies after carrying a child isn’t always easy and it takes time. It is easy for us to get in a mindset and talk about everything wrong with our bodies, our flaws, and the parts that really just disgust us the most. However, I think choosing to have grace and focus on the parts of our body we love really help change your perspective of how you see yourself. It took a lot of time for me to change my perspective about my post baby body and I truly believe that changing your perspective is essential to feeling good and appreciating your body for what it did and what it is now. We have to have grace for our bodies and we have to choose to feel good about ourselves because stomping on our flaws doesn’t make anyone feel good. • When I was going through my infertility, a close friend, was utterly devastated because she was going to have to have a c-section. While I understand that can be really hard for a woman, I was not the right person to have that conversation with because I would have had 10 c-sections if it meant that I would get a baby. I try and remember that about my postpartum body. Some women want desperately to be moms and would do anything for a road map on their bodies that define their journey and for others the stripes and wounds are all they have left of their child. We all have a journey. It’s okay to not love your body, but you can’t stay in that place. I think it’s normal for it to take time to fully appreciate our new mom bodies and gain a fresh perspective and see the beauty in your hope wounds, the stretch marks, and extra skin. Today I encourage you to see the beauty in your body! What is one thing you love about your post baby body?

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Desiree calls her stretch marks her "hope wounds", because she never stopped wishing for a child.

To her, the scars represent the power of the female body and stories of love and loss.

She said: "For the 'one' somewhere wishing, hoping, praying for her miracle, this is for you.

"For the one who delivered and lost your baby, I know your marks are all you physically have left of your angel. You are strong mama."

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Recently someone responded to my postpartum body with these words: “disgusting, I don’t know what husband would ever want to come home to that.” 😢 • First of all, shame on her. If anything is disgusting it is those words. • Yes, my body has changed quite dramatically since my pre-baby days, as you can see. But let me tell about the woman in the top photo with the gorgeous tan lines and flat tummy. She mastered shaming her body. She had such a distorted idea of body image and struggled to understand self-love and self-care. She would look into the mirror and find everything wrong with her body and worked hard to fix it. • Then there is the woman in the bottom photo. She may not have the perfect tummy, gorgeous tan, and a stretch mark free body BUT she has more confidence than she ever has in her life. She knows the value and meaning of embracing your new body and loving yourself. She takes care of herself by reminding her of the beauty in the body staring back at her in the mirror. She is beautiful and can find strength in what some people would call her flaws. Her body is beautiful and she worked hard for exactly what it is now. • Carrying a child, let alone 3 at one time, is not an easy task. Yes, the journey came with a whole new body, but I am also a whole new me with a greater understanding of loving myself and that is a GIFT! • It takes time and daily affirmations of love and body positivity to really embrace your new body. You can change your perspective! You can find the beauty! You must have grace for yourself. And Don’t compare yourself to the old you and pick out all the imperfections in your new body. It will cause more harm than good. Instead, remember this, you’re on a journey. One day at a time, choose to see the beauty because it is there. • Photo inspired by: @th3littlestavenger

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Desiree previously revealed she'd been targeted by sick Instagram trolls who wrote: "disgusting, I don’t know what husband would ever want to come home to that", after her stretch mark snaps.

Posting a side-by-side shot showing her pre and post-baby bodies, the mum said: "The woman in the top photo with the gorgeous tan lines and flat tummy mastered shaming her body.

"She had such a distorted idea of body image and struggled to understand self-love and self-care.

"She would look into the mirror and find everything wrong with her body and worked hard to fix it.

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#this_is_postpartum When I found out I was pregnant with triplets I remember scrolling through pictures of other triplet moms before and after pictures wondering how much my body would change. Would I have stretch marks? Would I ever feel comfortable in my own skin again? Would I hate my post baby body? • The truth Is my body changed.It changed a lot. I may have “bounced back” (whatever that really means), but my body is not the same, I am not the same. Everything changed. • There comes a point in our postpartum journeys where we have a choice to make. Will you choose to embrace your wounds and love your body for the miracle it did to bring life into this world OR will you be your biggest critic constantly feeding yourself lies about your new body? The reality is in order for us to fully embrace our postpartum bodies we must change our perspective and how we see ourselves. • Yes, my body has changed. Yes, it has taken time for me to feel beautiful, strong, sexy, and confident in this new body. But I prayed for these wounds. I longed for these tiger stripes. There was a time during my infertility where I would have had c-sections over and over just to have a baby in my arms. When I look at my hope wounds I will remember the other women out there waiting, hoping, wishing for the same kind of hope wounds. I will choose to embrace them for what they are because they are apart of my story and brought me my miracles. • My friends @th3littlestavenger and @thebirdspapaya said it perfectly “This, what I am holding in my hands, is a result of my successes.” • Whoever you are and wherever you are in your postpartum journey, always remember you’re beautiful, your body is amazing, and your a great mama. This is postpartum, and so is this: @she_plusfive (swipe and tap to see her story) Tee: @themomculture #thebump #teamSELF #selflove #postpartum #motherhood #pregnantandperfect #inspirepregnancy #fitmomsofig #pregnantchicken #ig_motherhood #birthbecomesher #stopcensoringmotherhood #aheadofthecurve #bodypositivity #csection #scars #LoveAnyBody #postpartumbody #fitness #loveyourself #postpartumdepression #tummytuck #triplets #birthwithoutfear #nonairbrushedme

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"The woman in the bottom photo may not have the perfect tummy, gorgeous tan and a stretch mark free body BUT she has more confidence than she ever has in her life.

"She is beautiful and can find strength in what some people would call her flaws. Her body is beautiful and she worked hard for exactly what it is now.

"Carrying a child, let alone 3 at one time, is not an easy task.

"Yes, the journey came with a whole new body, but I am also a whole new me with a greater understanding of loving myself and that is a GIFT!"

Well said, Desiree.

Yesterday we revealed a brave breast cancer survivor chose almost certain death so she didn’t have to abort her baby when it returned during pregnancy.

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