Woman baffled by ‘weird’ request from partner’s ex – and it’s sparked debate
Settling down with a person who has children from a previous relationship can be tricky.
Not only do you have to get approval to be around them, but you have to convince them to like you as well.
One woman thought she’d done a good job of blending her family with her partner’s, but now his ex has thrown a bizarre wrench into the works.
The unnamed woman revealed all in a post on Mumsnet – and her fellow users are divided over it.
Going by the name CupofFrothyCoffee, the mum-of-one started by explaining that her partner and his ex-wife have two children together, who stay over on the weekends and the holidays.
She wrote: "Partner has been split from his ex for years, they have two children together, they are 11 and nine. Partner and I don’t have any children together and don’t want any more. I have one child from a previous marriage, aged eight.
"His ex met her new partner about a year ago and is now pregnant, due next month.
"She works full-time as does her partner."
The post seems pretty straightforward, until this point, when things take a turn.
The mum continued: "When she told my partner about the new baby, she said ‘obviously we might need some help with child-care, it’d be much appreciated’.
"Partner thought she was joking and said ‘oh our baby days are long gone, but congratulations’ and she said ‘oh, but you’ll be having X and Y anyway so…’ and it was left at that as partner was a bit stunned and speechless."
She goes on to ask for advice from other parents on the "weird" situation.
Many mums agreed that it was a bizarre thing for the ex to ask of them.
One person wrote: "She’s completely bonkers. Why would you look after her baby?"
Another commented: "Make sure your partner tells her loud and clear that the baby is not part of any weekend childcare arrangement."
A third added: "She’s absolutely not thinking straight if she believes you and partner might actually consider that a possible option."
However not everyone thought she was wrong to ask for a bit of help.
Someone else posted: "If mum genuinely struggles, there could be a negative impact on your step children’s lives and as such, perhaps there is an element of ‘it is our problem’."
A second simply put: "I suppose it just depends on the relationship."
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