Black mum slams strangers questioning her pale-skinned daughter
Black mother who is married to a white man claims her family faces colourism as strangers question whether she is related to her mixed-race daughter because she has lighter skin
- Alex McCurry, 36, from Maryland, went viral on TikTok with video of daughter
- Strangers questioned whether mother could be related as her skin was lighter
- Alex says it is a ‘delicate conversation’ but some people ask the wrong questions
A black mother whose daughter is mixed race has hit out at strangers who question if the pair are even related because the baby has lighter skin than her mother.
Alex McCurry, 36, from Maryland, USA, gave birth to her baby, whose name she has not revealed but whom she calls ‘Pudge-Pudge’, four months ago.
She posted a video on TikTok venting her frustration after suffering a series of bizarre encounters with people who refused to believe her daughter is related to her.
Alex McCurry, 36, posted a video slamming those who have questioned whether her four-month-old baby is related to her as she has much lighter skin than her mother
The project manager said she needed to let people know that women in interracial relationships can give birth to children ‘of all colours’
Alex, who has three children with husband Rob (pictured) said the ‘cumulative’ impact of strangers asking her similar question that made her go public
Project manager Alex said: If you don’t know the person who has the mixed kids, it’s not okay to bring up the complexion of their kids.
‘She is blood of my blood, flesh of my flesh.’
Addressing her baby, she added: ‘One of the things about being a mixed kid is that you’re going to experience colourism.
‘In our family we treat everyone fairly based on who they are as a person.’
She posted her video after she was approached by a stranger who questioned whether the little girl was really her child.
Alex said: ‘Someone essentially questioned whether she was my child, they just didn’t understand biology, so I put it on TikTok because I was frustrated.’
She affectionately added the family nicknames the tot ‘Pudge-Pudge’ because she is ‘adorably chubby’.
Alex said she wanted people to understand that walking up to a stranger and questioning the parentage was not acceptable
In her TikTok video she told her baby daughter she would face colourism because she was a ‘mixed kid’
Alex said it has been a common interaction for the last five years since the birth of her first daughter.
And she said the latest experience with her four-month-old was the final straw.
Alex explained she was out with Pudge-Pudge, hugging and kissing the child, when a woman approached her, saying that the little girl was adorable, but things quickly turned sour.
The woman said: ‘Is she your baby?’.
When Alex replied that she was, the woman was baffled and added: ‘But she’s so white!’
Alex said it was the ‘cumulative’ impact that prompted her to go public.
She added: ‘I’m letting people know, mothers who are in interracial relationships and have biracial children, can have children of all colours.’
Alex said she wanted people to understand that walking up to a stranger and questioning the parentage was not acceptable.
Since the posting of the video, it has gone viral, accumulating nearly 800,000 likes and 4.9 million views.
Alex said she doesn’t want to discourage interactions between people but thinks it’s important to understand which questions to ask, which not to, and how to ask them.
She said: ‘My frustration came in because this is a very delicate conversation to have because I don’t want to discourage a sense of community.
‘At the same time, you need to understand that, just because you see a black mother with a child that you don’t perceive to look black, it doesn’t mean that child is not hers.
‘I just think people should be inclusive as possible of everyone. There are different ways for people to do different things every way, every day,’ she said.
‘You can honestly just let people be who they are, you can just go live your life, without potentially hurting anyone else.’
Since she posted the video, she has received several supportive comments about her actions.
One viewer said: ‘As a biracial child and a mother to a biracial child, “yes” to this!’
Another said: ‘I have mixed parents, people asked my mum if she was my babysitter [or] nanny.’
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