I am a virgin at 37 and don't know whether to be honest or pretend

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M a man of 37 and would really like to meet another man and have a proper relationship – with sex.

But I’m still a virgin and worry that any guy will laugh at me due to this.


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So now I’m really nervous about the thought of doing the deed and convinced I’ll mess it all up.

Would it perhaps be better to pretend that I’m experienced?

DEIDRE SAYS: There is nothing wrong with still being a virgin in your thirties, and it is not as unusual as you might believe.

Everyone does things at their own pace. It just isn’t something people tend to talk about openly.

Many men come out or realise they are gay at an older age.

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So may not have sex with another man until they are more mature.

Take time to get to know someone you like and build a good relationship.

The right person will not care that you have not had sex before and they could well feel flattered that the sex between you will be so special.

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