I feel guilty for snapping at my daughter but I’m struggling to cope with her tantrums – The Sun
DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my daughter more than words can say but we had a very bad day last week.
She refused to leave the house when it was time for school. I tried everything I could think of but she had a tantrum.
I told her that if she did not calm down and walk to school, I would not take her to the cinema as she wanted or on any more outings.
This made things 100 times worse. She was screaming and stamping her feet.
Then I snapped and shouted that she doesn’t deserve any treats if she is so nasty. She was still livid when we got to school.
Now I am worried that I went too far by shouting at her. I am 27, she is only eight. Should I stick to the punishment?
DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t beat yourself up but do look at how you can make sure you don’t get sucked in like this again.
Children need us to help them learn to deal with their own anger. Tell her how upset you are about what happened and ask her why she didn’t want to go to school.
Try to work out why she pressed your buttons like that – maybe it took you back to feeling like a child yourself – and what you can do to take a step back if it happens again.
Say you will reinstate the outing if she behaves herself till then.
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