My boyfriend only wants sex if we dress up and I hurt him

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend only wants sex with me if I walk over his back wearing high heels, but I hate doing it.

He has always liked extreme forms of sex, which he told me about early on. He’s 41 and I’m a guy of 33.


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He used to like wearing leather outfits, which was fine, but then he got into wearing dresses.

Then he wanted me to wear dresses, which I didn’t like.

As a “compromise”, he suggested I wear the heels while he lay on his front and I walked all over him.

I’m 14 stones so it must have been agony, but he loved it.

Now he only wants sex if we dress up and I hurt him, which is spoiling our relationship.

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DEIDRE SAYS: He has crossed a boundary. While some people enjoy inflicting pain on their partner, many people find it abhorrent, as to them, it isn’t an act of love.

You’ll have to find a real compromise.

Tell him that you’re not into the more sadistic side of sex, nor do you want to dress as a woman.

My support pack called Sex Games And Sense may help you to find something that you both enjoy, which is safe too.

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